Confront the Stress of Change
Have you ever found yourself stressed out or sad over the prospect of change, even when good things happen – like getting married?
Psychologists say that both children and adults like a certain amount of certainty and structure in their lives. True, some of us are thrill seekers. But most of us like to know what's around the corner.
The Good, the Bad, and the Stressful
Personal crises, such as divorce, undoubtedly bring more stress and anguish than positive changes. 3 kinds of events may be particularly troubling:
- Events that cannot be controlled, leaving one feeling helpless
- The loss of an important relationship
- Circumstances that bring lasting consequences
Strategies to Lessen the Stress
- Prepare for it, if possible. For instance, you can prepare for changes at work by mastering new technologies, such as computer programs.
- Look for ways you can personally affect the situation. For instance, a woman newly diagnosed with diabetes might take charge of her illness by starting an exercise program.
- Stick to daily routines, such as reading before bed. Structured routines help synchronize your circadian rhythms, or inner timekeepers. These routines may also help you maintain a sense of stability.
- Escape for a while and catch your breath. Lose yourself in a movie or take a brief trip.
- Seek support from friends or family. Loved ones can lessen the sting of negative changes and multiply the joy of happy ones.
Source: Krames Staywell